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In order to figure out what your partner really care about, imagine them at the end of the day. They finish dinner with their family or maybe they don’t get to see their families because they’re working too late. Maybe they pay a few bills, wrap up a few emails, watch some late-night netflix show, and then, in those few minutes when the lights are off and they’re about ready to fall asleep…

What keeps them awake? What problem are they starting at the ceiling and trying to solve but can’t? What issue is worrying them, concerning them, stressing them out?The most important of all, What are they searching on their phone in the middle of night?Because whatever they’re searching / reading on their phone during the most vulnerable time of the day in their most vulnerable spot ( their bed ), reveals what they want / are curious about and ultimately. It is who they are at their deepest core. And one cannot run away from oneself. He / she may be able to put up a mask in front of the world but that phone knows the insecurities, the desires, the unfinished business from the past.

Find out what that unfinished business is from the past and finish the unfinished business. You’ll have tremendous power over them.

People usually lie to you to your face and most people do when it comes to their desires, and what they want in life particularly in the department of sex. This discomfort largely stems from societal norms and upbringing, where topics like sex are not openly talked about. It's common for individuals to mask their true feelings due to fear of embarrassment or judgment, influenced by family, education, and societal expectations. Encouraging honest, non-judgmental conversations can help overcome these barriers. Women have suffered this issue more than men throughout the course of our collective history.

Women who previously felt too mortified from their desires are finally empowered to explore their erotic interests in privacy and comfort through internet, erotic novels, and porn sites that have catered content just for women. Women who were previously isolated in suburban neighborhoods can now surf an endless variety of exciting content without leaving their chair. Anyone can view porn on a smart phone while riding the subway or sneaking off to the office bathroom. Billions of people around the planet are free to satisfy their most secret erotic desires by thinking, clicking, and typing—all while remaining cloaked by the anonymity of the Internet. Kenneth Gergen was able to watch his subjects’ behavior in the darkened room using infrared cameras. But how do we observe people’s sexual activities on the Web if they are indeed anonymous? For better or worse, our online behavior is rarely traceless. We leave behind a trail of digital footprints. For example, if you use a search engine like Google, Yahoo!, or Bing, the text of your search is recorded and stored in a variety of places. The search engine companies certainly retain data about your search, and a few companies have even released semi-anonymized collections of individuals’ search histories. There are also third-party software tools that monitor, record, and sell search data. By examining this raw search data, we can finally see what’s on the end of everyone’s fork.

A Billion Wicked Thoughts is a book written by Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam, two neuroscientists. This book delves into the fascinating world of human sexuality by analyzing data from the internet, specifically web searches, to uncover what truly arouses and interests people. The authors conducted a large-scale study, using the internet as their research platform, to explore various aspects of human desire and attraction. The Raw data and the facts presented in the book will shape your worldview forever.

“The study of desire has never been for the faint of heart.”

As you read through the book you’ll find the truth of what people are searching rather than what they’re saying to you. You’ll arm yourself with an upperhand in the game like no one else and find ways to keep your significant other at your fingertips. You are at core a seducer. Master the art of seduction and navigate through the world at your own terms. See yourselves as a provider of pleasure, like bee that gather pollen from some flowers and deliver it to the right places. As children we mostly devoted our lives to play and pleasure. Adults often have feelings of being cut off from this paradise, of being weighed down by responsibilities.

Best seducers of this game are Siren’s. These women—among them Bathsheba, from the Old Testament; Helen of Troy; the Chinese siren Hsi Shi; and the greatest of them all, Cleopatra—invented seduction. They understood that people are always waiting for pleasure—they never get enough of it from friends and lovers, and they cannot get it by themselves. A person who enters their lives offering adventure and romance cannot be resisted. Figure out what your partner / boyfriend / girlfriend / husband / wife / significant other yearn for and you’ll hold all the cards of power over their spirit.

You may wonder; why was the focus of this blog solely focus on the sexual?

Sigmund Freud once said that everything you and I do springs from two motives:

• The Sex Urge

• Desire to be great

Some of the things most people want are :

1. Health and preservation of life. ( Money can buy maintenance of health, gym membership, good food, proper sleep, etc can improve chance of a healthy life. )

2. Food. ( Money can buy food. )

3. Sleep. ( Money can buy time for sleep. )

4. Money and things money will buy. ( We live in an age where people try to get rich buy expensive cars so that they can increase their chances in the dating marketplace and be able to bag good looks. )

5. Life in the hereafter. ( I don’t think any rational person give a fig about this. A dead person is a dead person. )

6. The well-being of our children. ( Money can solve this for the most part. )

7. A feeling of important. ( Fame, promotion at work, becoming a Doctor, etc… )

   Almost all of these wants are usually gratified with one thing ( money ) - all except one. There is one longing - almost as deep, almost as imperious, as the desire for food or sleep - which is seldom gratified.

   It is what Freud calls “The desire to be desired by the one YOU DESIRE”.

   I hope this blog acts like a Northstar and guides you to a treasure you yourself year for. I genuinely believe life is so short, and should not be wasted pursuing and seducing the wrong people. Ultimately the choice of your partner is critical and it will determine everything else that follows.