Last weekend I was maid of honor at a wedding and the best man said “you lost so much weight” “I didn’t know you are so small”. His words caught me off guard because, in reality, I haven't changed physically. The difference was in the dress: the bridesmaid dress hugged me better, unlike the straight-cut dress I wore the last time we met (see photos below).
This got me thinking about style and the image I project. What am I expressing when I get dressed each morning? What is the image I want to present?
For years, I stayed away from department store trends, preferring oversized garments in which I felt most like myself — a statement against societal pressure to conform to a standard of femininity, also delivering a message to the world that I have been claimed. However, recent life changes have shifted me toward exploring more feminine styles in everyday life. To my surprise, I still felt like myself and embraced a different kind of aesthetic. Am I still the same person, or have I grown into someone new?
Style has been more than just clothing for me; it has been a creative outlet and a journey of self-discovery, and I get to make friends with the same point of view. Each outfit reflects my mood, experiences, and evolving identity. I would only want to stay true and genuine to myself, regardless of external voices.
After all, the road to self-discovery can be lonely, and we don't need to be understood by everyone. It’s okay if you don’t understand how good a strapless column dress is.
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